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Grace and Grit

Grace comes in the form of staying in bed with a blossoming cold even when scheduled for a workout.

Grit comes in the form of shoveling snow off of a roof for the first time even though heights are terrifying.

Both of these happened within the last five days.

Grace comes in the form of a pause, holding spikey thoughts and allowing words to wash away like a breeze.

Grit comes in the form of expression clear and direct to cut through clouds of lingering false beliefs.

-I’ve held my thoughts and expressed firmly within the last month.

Grace comes in the form of compassionate bridging when systems are now riddled with fear and polarities. Grit comes in the form of action when insanity is so harmful we muscle courage toward the unknown.

Last year I danced and slogged through being and doing – filling the ground of pretty and ugly.

Grace and Grit became familiar to me first when reading Ken Wilber’s 2001 book by the same title. Over the years these two words have been used together – for countless situations and occasions. In October of last year, these bookends held Emerging Women founder Chantal Pierrat’s keynote. Today, this month, as we begin a new year and a new opening for Somatic Finance, I offer Grace and Grit as vital capacities on our fluid map of discovery. Grace and Grit are the pith capacities to embody dignity. Dignity, an essential nutrient of human existence, is the theme offered for 2018. Dignity is energized in our spine connected by the heart and our belly. Grace moves through the heart. The belly holds grit. Grace and Grit enable us to get through the fiery realities we face, today; not yesterday and not tomorrow. Now.

Grace and Grit are both essential skills.

Grace and Grit key into situations quickly – silently – precisely – compassionately.

Grace and Grit are the mother load of feminine warriors.

Grace and Grit are mastered through three centers in the body – head, heart and belly.

The fruition of Grace and Grit is Dynamic Dignity, an ever-flowing ability to be attentive to life with warrior skill, kind attention and an evolutionary nudge. Dignity allows for the tendency to fade and constrict in challenging situations to be strong, clear, and here.

Money consistently presents opportunities for practicing and embodying Dynamic Dignity, whether a “positive” or “negative” situation. Whether seeking answers for accumulated savings, or making a choice for charitable giving, or navigating insurance claims for property loss, or evaluating health coverage options, or holding the pain of financial injustice… Dynamic Dignity reveals fresh truer insights and energy to move in a beneficial direction.

Let’s emphasize these words offered together with clear intention. We’ve covered dignity. Let respect be meaningful to you now and always. Dynamic is moving – forward, pausing, sideways, energized and precise. Dynamic is putting the force into something happening. Dynamic means it is now, time, to get going. Once your insight provides sufficient J clarity, take action. Get moving. Do something.

For your money, this means it is not sufficient to understand where overspending beliefs and behavior originated. Take that new understanding into a practice to heal, be generative, improve money health, and resolve permanently the ticks and tugs that have held you back. Grace and grit will lead and hold the way.

It’s 2018. Put a stake in the ground to integrate money – in all ways – through the body – in your life. Begin by committing to dignity. Then, practice with this month’s 5 minute Try-it – Dynamic Dignity – to feel this precious nutrient come alive in your body.  Practice until your Dynamic Dignity is embodied… in all situations, you remain steadfast, present, clear, compassionate and right action follows.

May Grace and Grit feed our way,

Celebrating Life

It’s my birthday month. I’m a few years shy of the big six-o. My birthday is not big news and rarely do I call attention to it, but this year feels different.

Upon contemplation, I realize that this year my birthday feels to me to be about otherness. Meaning, I’m feeling the intersection of all beings, and feeling inspired to give rather than to receive. As in, the giving is receiving, and receiving is giving. Despite a phantom list of all of the problems happening in the world, our country, my home, my work, my family…I live a blessed life. (I use the word phantom as a way of noting my view of problems. Problems can just as easily be seen as openings for change, for love, for clarity, for taking action. If you are curious about seeing problems from another vantage point, make “problems” your object of exploration. In a crucible kind of way, problems catalyze new possibilities. How can that be a problem? J) Good fortune surrounds me and fills me. I enjoy more food, material goods, leisure time, intellectual pursuits, healthy activities, meaningful work, and treasured relationships than 99+% of the people walking our earth. On my birth, I had good fortune that has continued to bless me. With each passing year, I recognize the depth of my good fortune, the choices I have made, and the motivation that has held me, clearly highlighting the truth of our collective well-being, or lack thereof.

It feels challenging to celebrate when our environment is suffocating from human pollution, unconscious behavior and lack of care. The vitality of our waters, earth and air is depleting. The very beneficiaries of these nutrients are destroying nature’s life giving essence.

It feels challenging to celebrate when new government policies are severely skewed to the self-interests of those voting in favor of deplorable policies and rules.  I’m distressed that supposed servant leaders have morphed into egotistical power hungry self-grasping leeches. Their actions, limited to benefitting the few, have widened the chasm of “us and them.” The polarized and tension-stretched rubber band is poised to snap. The hit will be fierce and it seems like the cascading aftermath will be ugly. Crowds will be left pointing a finger outward when in actuality, the events are pointing toward a mirror. We are all in this together.

It feels challenging to celebrate when I read the newspaper or listen to the news and another act of violence has left innocent people dead, wounded and with life-altering trauma. How is it we have come to a period in our history where mass gun shootings feel familiar and the initial outcry fades quickly like the outgoing tide?

My celebrating life message is not meant to be dreary. But the truth of present reality is the gateway to celebrating authentically. Life is begging us to open our eyes, our hearts, and our minds, in order to see clearly and where we fall short in nourishing her and where we are causing harm. When we see clearly we are able to act with intelligence, precision, and purpose.

The times feel challenging, and a challenge is a call to action, not resolution. Life doesn’t get resolved. We do not come to a conclusion wrapped in a bow. Life co-exists and co-creates with us. Life is asking for us to take action with our hearts, and move toward something better.

There are three causes that I have chosen for donations for my birthday. If you are moved to give in celebration of Life, please follow the links below the descriptions that follow for my picks, or feel inspired to research a cause that speaks to your own values.

Testing the Waters is the inspiration of Pranav Shikarpur, the son of a longtime friend. I am inspired by the ingenuity, creativity, intelligence and “generativity” of our next generation. The collective impact of this innovation has the potential to benefit the world. Testing the Waters is one of twenty projects selected to represent India at the Intel ISEF Science Fair in 2018. Polluted waters are widespread in Pranav’s native land in India. He and his partners have developed a portable prototype to easily test the purity of water (lakes, ponds, oceans) for public use. Their innovation gives evidence to support necessary actions to clean up the polluted waters and provide clean water for Life. Links to more information and the opportunity to donate are found below.

http://www.testingwaters.co.in/

http://m.thehindubusinessline.com/news/science/from-a-robotic-arm-to-an-app-that-senses-bumpy-roads-young-minds-showcase-innovations-at-the-iris/article9967411.ece

To donate: https://www.impactguru.com/fundraiser/help-testing-waters

TreeSisters is an organization founded by Claire Dubois, “committed to the creation of an evolving system that learns as it goes and continually models itself upon the flows and forms of living systems. Her aim is to reclaim balance, to revel in freedom and health and to be a ‘walking permission’ for those who are fed up of being held back, and just want to have a go.” I was inspired by the engagement and authenticity of Claire as I experienced her presence, care and wisdom at Emerging Women 2017 in Denver, Colorado this October. As well as by Claire herself, I am motivated by the generative mission of the organization for the planet and all people.

TreeSisters exists to elicit collective responsibility for planetary restoration at the grass roots level with a focus on women and tropical reforestation. We are growing a global network of women who donate monthly to fund the acceleration of tropical reforestation as an expression of collective planetary care.

To donate and learn more, follow this link: https://www.treesisters.org/

The Ocean Clean Up attends to the vital waters of our earth and all the beings that dwell in the oceans by cleaning up the world’s oceans of plastic that have entered the ocean from human consumption. From their research, “a significant percentage of this plastic drifts into large systems of circulating ocean currents, also known as gyres. Once trapped in a gyre, the plastic will break down into microplastics and become increasingly easier to mistake for food by sea life. The Ocean Cleanup is developing a passive system, moving with the currents – just like the plastic – to catch it.” CEO and founder, Boyan Slat says, “for society to progress, we should not only move forward but also clean up after ourselves.” I couldn’t agree more.

To donate and learn more, follow this link: https://www.theoceancleanup.com/

As you read and reflect on the above inspirations, you may notice a common theme. I am moved that they each benefit the greater good, the collective, and all beings on earth. Happiness, authentic happiness, comes from realizing we are all in this precious life together AND connecting that realization with kindness in our thoughts, words and actions.  Do you recall these gentle sayings – given during vulnerable learning places in your life?

What goes around comes around.

Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.

When you point one finger out there are three fingers pointing in.

The Gift, the Giver and the Receiver are all the same.

May these reminders be an inspiration to you and your actions. Even if you are not able to give monetarily, you can be generative in your actions. A few suggestions follow:

  • Eliminate use of plastic (straws, bags) and use only recyclable material.
  • Establish powerful intentions with clear actions to be earth friendly.
  • Plant a tree or water a public tree in the city.
  • Read – articles, real news and studies about our planet; be informed about planetary sustainability.

Celebrating, my birth and yours,

Flourishing Feminine

Last month I had the good fortune to attend Emerging Women Live 2017 and to facilitate a coaching circle on Somatic Finance©. The experience, energy + presence + women + motivation, saturated me for four days. My body was electrified with feminine power. I felt juiced and alive with joy, vitality and expansion. Feminine power has that quality. The feminine cares big — wide, deep and high. And when immersed in that space, we reflect that reality. Below I captured a few favorite quotes from the speakers, just for you. There were many more. This is a taste for you to savor. As you read and receive, imagine the intention behind the words. Feel the energy that lights up in you, in your body

Before we begin…
This is not about men versus women. Feminine energy is alive in all beings.
This is about seeing beyond a narrow view.
This is about opening our hearts to a reality beyond our familiar.
This is about the simple ways of life – kindness, joy, and truth – that enable all lives to be better.

My suggestion for reading: pause, turn off disruptive devices, get a favorite beverage, retrieve pen and paper and practice savoring. Enjoy. Relish. Take pleasure in receiving these offerings.

When someone on the other side of the world is doing well, 
we feel it whether we know what was done or not.
Kindness is the greatest tool to recognize a person’s value.
It doesn’t require you to be anything other than you.
~ Orly Wahba, Kindness Boomerang
Achievement of women’s dream is central to our civilization.
Your dreams will have greater meaning when they are tied to the betterment of your community.
If you want to go fast go alone. If you want to go far go with others.
Hospice the death of the old systems that no longer serve us.
~ Dr. Tererai Trent, Humanitarian and Author
Make a shift from being a consumer species to a restorative species.
Let your savings save something.
~ Claire Dubois, Founder of TreeSisters
Behind every criticism lives a wish.
There is no way to live an interesting life and be sure. 
We must be in uncertainty. If uncertainty is not for you, respect it.
~ Esther Perel, Psychotherapist and Author
When we own our stories, we get to write a brave new ending.
Our home zone is the way you find your way to speak. 
The home zone is human and not always comfortable.
Comfortable is forgettable.
~ Gail Larsen, Founder of Real Speaking
Pausing is in service of the doing.
Pause is a feminine value.
~ Rachael O’Meara, Author, The Power of Pause
What comes through me is an answer to someone’s prayers.
Work requires us to be the women we are meant to be.
~ Liyana Silver, Author, Feminine Genius
It’s not personal; it’s physics.
If we don’t resonate with something, it’s just not aligned for our energy.
What if – it’s just physics? – 
allow your internal GPS system to guide you to be the greatest expression of what you are.
~ Suzy Batiz, Founder & CEO Poo-Pourri
Have a mission that is so much larger than you that fuels you from your identity.
The vicious cycle of wealth can be as vicious as the cycle of poverty. ~ Mother Theresa
~ Lynne Twist, Author and Activist, The Soul of Money
In any moment we all have the capacity to lead.
Leadership is created by all conscious decisions made along the way.
~ Cheryl L. Jones, The Mindful Path
Be bold. Your heart already knows what is best for you.
We can be change agents for a kinder world.
~ Shiza Shahid, The Mahala Fund
The one thing we are held accountable for at death: How did you love? Not who you loved.
~ Colleen Abdoulah, Chair of World Pulse
Create the experience you want if you don’t like the present experience.
Create something new in the WE sphere.
A rubber band stretches with tension. Owning the experience means the tension resolves.
~ Chantal Pierrat, Founder of Emerging Women
There is no number.* There is only flow. 
As life changes, numbers change. 
When we embody sufficiency, access to life and flow expands. 
It doesn’t matter what the number is when in flow.
~ Gayle Colman, founder & dreamer of Somatic Finance®

Thank you, Chantal, and all emerging women, for co-creating and nourishing our inner space, for connecting our outer space, … to benefit the world.

Relishing, receiving, respecting,

Practice Practice

Definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.

The above definition of insanity is most frequently attributed to Einstein. At its core, the message is about the behavior of someone who is not aware, particularly of how specific action relates to results. When we want to improve our circumstances, we need to be aware of the crucial issue, in order to make choices, and, we need to practice, in order to improve our capacity. In short, awareness creates choice, and practice creates capacity. Desiring change, and being aware of change, is only half of the equation required to create change. The second half of the equation is practice.

All too often, we mistake cognitive recognition for capacity. We read information. We gain knowledge. We acknowledge new ideas. We take different perspectives. We experience “aha” moments. We see new choices. These moments of insight brighten our mind. However, they do not build embodied muscles that enable us to perform differently in the world. Taking better action requires practice.

Awareness creates choice. Practice creates capacity.

Being aware and having capacity are two different aspects of development. Being aware ignites the motivation to practice. Engaging in practice is consciously harnessing energy in the service of embodied growth, to cultivate sustainable capacity.

I have a lingering beef with people’s lack of motivation (courage, vulnerability, humility, truth, discipline, heart, determination and choice) to practice, particularly from those who “know” something. Nothing changes unless practice is part of the experience. Nothing changes just because a concept is understood. We need to choose practice and we need to choose practice with awareness, even if the practice is to be here content with what is.

Practice is a conscious activity that allows wisdom to co-emerge with action. Ultimately this action, when coming from pure wisdom, is compassion in action. But most of us are practicing for a long, long time before this realized way of co-emergent wisdom and compassion materializes consistently.

Why do I harp so fervently about practice? Because practice really matters.

Insanity isn’t a healthy state of mind to engage life. Repeating harmful patterns causes unhappiness, frustration and a downward spiral of suffering. When it comes to money, the lack of awareness and practice is pervasive.

The money field is notorious for a lack of embodied intelligence. Housed primarily in the left-brain strategic mind, we know many facts about money and the systems in our modern world. We recognize that many situations need to change to improve – individually and collectively.

Financial professionals are typically taught to discover problems. Define problems; analyze problems; develop strategies to alleviate problems. But as emphasized above, only being aware of the problems does not change the problems. It simply makes the problem evident, in order to make a different choice. Unless there is a skillful practice to engage the situation in a new way, preferably a practice that includes the body, there will be little to no progress. In fact, more suffering ensues because the problem is clearly known, perhaps new choices made, but remedies are stalled. Working with clients and their money limitations requires both an understanding of the issues and focused practices to build muscles to address the issues in an optimal way.

Going deeper and further, practices that only engage an exterior mechanical activity rarely attend to the essential issue because they do not touch the heart of the issue. Unless we access the root, what touches our hearts the most, we will continue to circle with band-aide solutions that look like viable practices.

Here is a common client issue: overspending. Overspending from an exterior practical view is having more cash outflow than inflow. It is a math equation, the amount of money coming in is less than the amount of money going out; it is called deficit spending. A negative balance is created at the end of a period of time (month, pay cycle, accounting period). One way to address this issue is to create a budget, a spending plan that dictates all income sources and where that income will be allocated over the specified period of time. One can call this a practice. However this practice rarely succeeds. There is no connection to the real issue that stands in the way of a balanced cash flow. A budget accesses the rational linear mind; it does not actively engage the body with awareness.

A superior and more successful practice for spending will combine a spending plan with meaning and somatic awareness. Here are a few examples:

  • When you reach for your credit card to make a purchase, pause and bring your attention to your belly. What sensations do you notice? What thoughts are running through your mind? Do you feel tight, warm, agitated, calm, or confused? Our bodies provide accurate information about purchases. For example, do you feel tight, agitated, and are you running a fear-based commentary? Look directly at the purchase: am I satisfying a need, a want or a rush? If it is an unconscious pattern, put the credit card back in your wallet and walk away. Note that refraining from the purchase is in service of saving for a higher priority. Appreciate yourself for shifting unconscious spending. After weeks and months of practice, a new way of being with credit cards emerges that allows you to stop spending before getting to the register.
  • If you are in a depressed emotional state, do you go shopping? If this is a pattern, disrupt the pattern with a healthy alternative choice: a 15-minute walk in nature (or a hallway or the sidewalk or the house) giving attention to your heart with self-acceptance. This practice, multiple times over a period of weeks and months, enables the pattern to shift to a healthy habit of loving kindness and decreased reactive depression spending.
  • At the end of a pay cycle when reviewing your budget, note where your income was allocated. Appreciate conscious spending choices, such as: mortgage/rent, grocery store, gym. Visualize the safety and comfort of home, eating and preparing meals in your own kitchen, a healthy body and mind from exercise, respectively. As the visualization intensifies, feel appreciation in your body. What do you notice and where in your body do you notice it? What does conscious spending feel like to you? Claim and feel your progress.

With each of the above somatic spending plan practices, powerful chemicals in the body get activated as a result of our body’s intelligence letting us know at a cellular level that we are changing in a positive way. We activate calming responses (through the para-sympathetic nervous system) that release dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin.  These powerful natural chemicals feel good and support building new muscles aligned with optimal choices toward what we most want to achieve.  Connecting the somatic response with cognitive recognition reinforces the feedback loop to repeat the practice again. Eventually, the practice becomes embodied – sustainable without needing to think about doing it.

Instead of practicing insanity, disrupt insanity with a powerful practice.

What stands in your way of making progress with your life? Delve deeper into the situation and connect what matters deeply to you with the issue you discover. This connection is the seat of your motivation – typically we are moved when we get to the heart of the matter. Develop a somatic practice (or ask for help from a trusted friend/coach) to bring your awareness to the issue, to see better choices and to engage your body intelligence.

Give generous attention and discipline to your practice over time. Be determined and kind. Allow progress to grow by recognizing the changes in behavior and new insights from those changes.

Practice enables us to grow while having a rich human experience – fully embodied.

Practicing,

The World Expects Something from You

This summer at my annual meditation intensive, I noticed a deeply ingrained pattern about achievement and expectation, held firmly in place since childhood. Witnessing others achieving and making progress on practice forms, I realized that I am not motivated by achievement, at all. For those familiar with the enneagram assessment typology, I scored only 1 answer within Type 3 (the Achiever). Typed as a 7 (the Enthusiast), I used to consider this amusing. For those familiar with Integral Theory and the Quadrants Lens, I orient from Upper Left, which means that I am motivated by meaning, in order to take action, see broad patterns, or relate with others. Finding meaning before anything else has always made the most sense to me. I mean, why bother with Life – in any way – unless there is a deeper meaning. Right?

Hmm, maybe, but what is here to explore?  It sounds good and looks good; and there is more.  Delving deeper we find truer meaning; here are a few “pith points” …

  • Sitting in open space on my cushion and walking the dry woods, wondering about achievement, I realized that in order to achieve, an expectation of achievement is usually present, preceding the accomplishment. In other words, expectation to realize a goal comes before accomplishing the goal.
  • Achievement, the inspiration to generate, is part of all human development. Depending upon our genetic make-up (nature) and the environment we are raised (nurture), our motivation and capacity to achieve comes to life.
  • Finances are fueled with expectations: spending within earnings, retiring at a certain age, going to college or sending a child to college, investing within a healthy risk tolerance. Expectations about these objectives drive achievement.
  • The body, my body, your body, brings us closest to the truth of expectation and achievement.

As the youngest of four children, each two years apart, my untrained parents had their hands, arms, legs and body filled to the brim with caring for us. As we grew up, the state of the home did not change much. The environment was active and my mother was always tending to dinner, a sick child, an activity, housework – movement of any kind.  My father left for work early in the morning and returned in the evening just before dinner. The routine offered little time for anything more than noticing my existence.  Reflection, conscious teachings, much less deeper nurturing, were beyond their abilities by the time I was born. My child’s mind interpreted my family’s expectations as the following: 1) Don’t mess up, i.e. don’t go to jail and embarrass us, 2) Don’t become a star or be wildly successful, i.e. don’t shame us by shining too bright, and 3) Just be average, i.e. graduate from high school and college.

If my life achievements are examined, they are sufficient. J Compared to western statistics on education, studies indicate that I am in the 28.8% of Baby Boomers who have earned a college degree.  Other achievements that matter to me, relationships, career, health, service have their own metrics. Ultimately how I engage and experience life in my body – heart opened and generous – is my primary metric on achievement. So, I am not complaining about, nor minimizing my accomplishments. Far more interesting for us is exploring expectations of achievement, and what comes before expectations.

My parents did not instill expectations around adult accomplishments; for one reason, they did not see me as an individual but as a part of a group of children. One must be seen fully – individually – in order to have expectations impressed upon them. I’m guessing that most, if not all, of us were not fully seen by our caregivers. Expectations implanted by caregivers may have been inspiring (or not). Your achievements may have come from the environment in which you were raised, or not.  But your accomplishments and actions come from some motivation that inspires you to be who you are and do what you do.

At the airport returning home from my retreat, with a renewed sense of the importance of seeing my children as individuals and the power of parental expectations, I called my freshly graduated son who is working full time at a job he loves. I shared my discoveries and stated, “If Dad and I have not impressed upon you that we see your gifts, and we expect you to nurture those gifts and share those gifts with the world, then it is your job to realize the world has these expectations.”

The world expects something from you. The world expects you to shine and share your gifts with others. Why bother having any talents if they are not shared? Gifts hoarded are not gifts. The world shares her gifts with you by teaching 1) recognition of unique abilities, 2) achievement of what is possible and 3) offering generously. The world asks nothing except that you recognize your gifts and share them. Otherwise your gifts become stale, atrophy and are lost forever. (See Be Moved and wisdom from Martha Graham!) Achievement, oriented toward recognition, development and sharing, fulfills the expectation the world asks of you. The beauty and magic of sharing is that when shared, the benefits return ten-fold. This means that our life fulfillment deepens and brightens.

If you are at a loss for how to share your gifts, begin with your motivation. What is, or are, your inner desires? What’s the practice that supports your understanding AND growth? Don’t go to your head. The answers will come from a memory, a “should”, or an idea planted from outside. Do go to your heart. These answers come from an authentic truth of your current motivation.  Explore this month’s 5 Minute Try-It as a suggestion. Click this link to view podcast

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4O6lPyIA394

If you are fully aware of how to share your gifts, keep them coming and expand your capacity for impact. Include impact in your motivation… and watch how your gifts grow. How’s that for achievement?

Awake Achieving,

Sources:
Life Style-Baby Boomer Statistics
55placess.Com-Interesting Baby Boomer Facts

Sufficiency, Sharing, Soaring

Last month I scared a few folks with fire. Some were concerned, some were energized by my intensity igniting action, and some were confused. Some ignored the flames. All of these responses are beautiful and welcomed. But the pith point is: embodied sufficiency requires us to burn through the dregs of our complacency and be powerfully moved by situations, people and emotions. In other words, by being fully present to the “fiery” situations in life, my pissed-off-ness has carved out a cleaner, deeper, truer space of sufficiency, allowing for a pristine clarity from which to respond to situations, people and emotions. This is freedom. This is life.

Today, in late July, I feel joy, happy and inspired, more like water than fire, fluidly open to possibilities, and excited by a few discoveries. Tomorrow, or even this afternoon, I might be feeling something different. The ability to be present to what is, builds your ability to embrace and feel expanded sufficiency—and the tentacles reaching others get closer, generosity beginning to blossom. Can you feel the pull towards co-creation?

I have been reading reports on the explosion of the sharing economy. New ways are developing to co-own our possessions with others. Instead of the dire need to own (me, mine, myself), we are recognizing the intelligence and benefit of renting, sharing, and borrowing (we, us, everyone).  Years from now, I imagine we will look back on this time and see a huge transformation in what really matters. I can’t wait.

You are likely aware of some of the choices for sharing, such as Airbnb, Zip cars, Uber, Lyft, and local upscale clothing. Each day new ideas are ignited for optimizing the use of “non-owned” material goods. The Lexington Public Library in Massachusetts and the Nashville Public Library in Tennessee loan out musical instruments in addition to traditional books and movies. No doubt other libraries across the country are doing the same. The inventory of instruments is growing daily, thanks to those who recognize the value of music and the waste of an unused idle instrument. Can you hear the guitars hidden in the back of closets whining to be strummed?

What else is blossoming in the sharing economy? Transportation and recreation vehicles of many flavors: bikes, boards, boats and RVs (check out Spinlister, Boatbound, RVShare). The cost of buying and maintaining these toys is noteworthy – not only in dollars but also in time. Time is spent making repairs and funding maintenance rather than in their desired use with other people. Growing up in a boat-owning, fishing, water-skiing and -recreation family, I often heard the phrase, “the best boat is your friend’s boat.” Meaning, using another person’s boat optimized the experiences of boating activity. Essential enjoyment of a boat was the actual use on the water, and these times decreased over the passage of ownership, consuming time and energy in maintenance.

The sharing economy spreads into food consumption, expanding from physical nourishment to a nourishing experience (check out Feastly). Meal sharing and meeting new people at the same time could become our evolved new way of dining. Enjoying a special menu with a chef at his or her home, with others, is a budding scheme. Or, have you heard of, or perhaps participated in, a Pop-Up community dinner? Not so long ago on Facebook I enjoyed viewing a friend from Charleston S.C.’s photos of the pop-up community dinner in her neighborhood. Everyone was wearing white. On the lawn of the community park, portable card tables were lined up and decorated with tablecloths, utensils. Participants brought dishes to share with each other.

Sharing, expanding our embodied sufficiency to generosity, as we recognize opportunities to connect with others in new and fresh ways, supercharges our well-being toward soaring.  Over five years ago, maybe close to ten, I wrote about an innovative idea and website called: rentme.com. After a slow start and stumble, it folded. I don’t recall how long it lasted, but when I went to rent a wheelbarrow, it was no longer in operation. The concept of renting instead of owning a few years ago didn’t succeed; it was too early. But, now, in a climate of shifting values – as our planet suffocates and as we realize stuff no longer generates pleasure – we are open to connecting with others in a new way. This way of sharing, borrowing, and renting allows us to spread our wings in life.  We free up energy to direct toward that which gives us the most satisfaction, well-being and nourishment.

Sparking joy and ease,

P.S. Sparking joy is a phrase from the popular book, “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up”, by Marie Kondo. She offers a somatic practice of clearing your home of unwanted (non-joy-sparking) items that is both effective and easy.

On Fire. Pissed Off

Years ago I said to a male teacher that I felt really angry but there was no content to my anger. He replied, “I don’t know any woman who isn’t angry. In fact, if a woman is not angry, I wonder about her sanity.”

My geyser is roaring and the last vestiges of niceness, ladylikeness and sweet demeanor are gone. If you are not interested in bold truth-telling with spicy language, stop reading. My words are not for the faint of heart or the practice of idiot compassion. (If the phrase idiot compassion (1) offends you, meaning, you are triggered (hurt, defensive, skeptical), consider this moment an invitation to explore. Idiot compassion is innocent, unless it becomes a mask of being nice when a different response is necessary. No blame, judgment or criticism is present in my statement; we have all innocently practiced idiot compassion.)  Please understand, my fiery energy is in the service of truth, humanity, love and universal care. This “anger” energy is required to source power, clarity and determination on behalf of this precious life for all beings.  The essence of anger is clarity with energy that cuts through the fog of conceptions.

Day after day shit happens that pisses me off.

The body doesn’t lie. My body doesn’t lie. For the past six weeks I have been attending to a red-hot rash on my face that feels like a beard of bee stings on steroids. At times the rash moves up my face, around my nose, on my eyelids, and between my eyebrows. It’s not pretty. But the look bothers me much less than the “search” for the cause, and tempering the pain.

The growing team of detectives is amusing: naturopath, dermatologist, acupuncturist, chiropractor, energy worker… A few weeks ago at the dermatologist with the raging rash, I was given a prescription for a generic topical ointment to calm the pain. I asked for a sample to get started immediately and the doctor said, “No, let’s try this generic brand, it will work better.” OK. I stood patiently in line at the pharmacy, then was given the prescription and a $500 charge. Yes. You read the correct number: $500 for an 8 oz. tube of gel. I almost leveled the pharmacist-in-training, tempering my tears. “Are you serious? This is generic?” His discomfort with my reaction was palpable. But I also sensed his embarrassment.

How can a generic brand of medicine – something to heal a person – cost so much? This is fucking insanity. No, it’s greed. I left, eyes pooling and jaw cinched, without the tube of relief. On the phone with the receptionist (because of course the dermatologist was unavailable) I again requested a sample of something having politely (here is that behavior again) but firmly said the prescription was $500 after insurance. She agreed $500 was a significant cost. In my silence, I was screaming, God, give me anything – cow manure – I’m about to rip my face off. Back to the doctor’s office, leaving with sample in hand, I found some peace and relief.

I’m told that my body is releasing toxins (like arsenic, and other yummy poisons). I’m told that anger is held in the intimate crevices of my liver, gall bladder and vital organs. I’m told that my diet needs an upgrade. I’m sporting patches on my back testing for allergens. All true. Yes. I am keenly aware of all of these moving parts being true. And now I am aware of something else “hot off the press”. The results from the allergy test indicate I am severely allergic to fragrance. While I am not a perfume kind of gal, you would be stunned by all of the fragrance in products. And now I prepare for another adventure, fragrance free.

My body is also matching the reality of our world. It’s fighting greed.

Let’s continue my story. I understand profit for a company that needs revenue to operate and pay salaries. I understand research and development for an industry to make medical advances. I’m clear on the flow of business operations and how money moves through the system. That’s the problem. I am informed. I know there is a fine line, a no-man’s land, a grey space of capital growth that is being crossed again and again and again – into greed.

Greed is a toxic plague in our modern world.

As I stood there on the verge of tears in front of the young pharmacist, my thoughts went to the masses who cannot afford this luxury of ointment. How can a system be so cruel? If I had to, I could dive into my savings and spend $500 for the tube. But outrage stopped me. And probably released more anger through my face.

My mother-in-law, Bea, died April 13th and her automatic bill paying for various services continues until the “authorities” are notified with proof of death (death certificate) that this customer no longer needs the service and to cease billing. The process to stop billing is exhausting. After more than 40 hours of follow-up, ATT finally accepted that Bea no longer was alive and could not be a customer and as of July 3rd stopped billing.  This date is almost two months after her death and $162 in charges. Did you know that calling ATT (a phone company) with information is insufficient? You must go to the store in person. Did you know that only certain stores are able to discontinue service? My spouse found out the hard way after two different visits to two different stores. Did you know that even though we are an electronic society, and a death certificate could have been sent electronically, ATT requires a physical copy be shown to a person in the “correct” store? (How hypocritical and ironic is it that no form of electronic information (scan of fax of death certificate) is acceptable to a company that earns its revenues from electronic information dissemination.) This ATT person then calls the main office to speak to another ATT person – the same person we called in April who said we needed to go to a physical store – to verify that in fact said customer, Bea Colman, is no longer in need of services. The phone was unplugged soon after April 13th.  This system, which mirrors other systems, pisses me off. They will not refund the charges for Bea even though they were notified soon after her passing.

How heartless is this company that makes it as hard as possible to manage the affairs of a deceased loved one during a delicate and grieving time of life? Maybe this was unusual. Or, maybe it was not. My skeptic says that companies operate this way because they can, and they are more concerned with the bottom line than the care of the soul.

I wish I could confidently say that the avalanche of greed can skillfully be met with an equally powerful force of outrage, and that I can trust the systems in our world to respond with love and humanity. I can’t. However, greed can be met in a different, less explicit way. With a unique force – like subtle Jedi invisible threads that link the hearts and minds of open courageous people.

This powerful force begins inside each of us. We must attend to the nuggets of our own scarcity (beliefs, behavior, patterns, emotions), which devolve our minds and drain our energy. Any sense of lack that tugs at your heart wants to be washed away in loving-kindness. Any smidgeon of doubt or fear or confusion, can be wrapped in a mantel of truth.

These practices allow for sufficiency to ignite and blossom. Embodied sufficiency arises in full measure when we attend to the bits and bobs held in a veil of scarcity.

We clean up this space for ourselves. My face on fire is a great reminder that my body is alive, generating the energy to ignite the fire and provide wisdom. My belief that companies will do the right thing, that ultimately they care about the people they serve, is naïve.  My idiot compassion says, be polite, ladylike and nice. But, my face, my throat and my belly say, speak up and share these experiences. My body says living from the heart is a new operating system that begins with the individual. Companies will only respond when we are clear in our own experience and access the fire ignited by our bodies.  We clean up our interior for the benefit of all. Because embodied sufficiency is wise and doesn’t allow murky fear to weaken truth and the force of greed is so insidious and heartless, that we meet greed with the most powerful antidote, Love. Love expressed with fire and power. My exploration and practices to clean up fear in all forms allows for clarity (Love) to emerge in this writing and in service to others.

Love is generosity in motion. Love embraces the space of lack, scarcity, and greed.

The energy of anger carries that love to wherever it is needed most.

Greed is not a frequent writing topic. Most of us do not inhabit that space and do not require that depth of attention. But the fire raging in my body offers wisdom, and I’m listening. Clean up your stuff. Clean up your sense of lack. Gain clarity about your sense of sufficiency. Repeat: “I am OK.” Feel that OK-ness to your bones. And then, get moving. How does the embodied sense of sufficiency catalyze your generosity?

Generously Hot! Wicked Pissed! Determined!

(1) A phrase coined by Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche and described by Pema Chodron, “It refers to something we all do a lot of and call it compassion. In some ways, it’s what’s called enabling. It’s the general tendency to give people what they want because you can’t bear to see them suffering.”