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It won’t be Perfect, but it will be Better

08/08/2019

Six months ago, a dear friend who lives thousands of miles away, a gifted potter who began her passion later in life, sent me two gorgeous pieces. The five-inch green square and three-inch blue rectangle sat on my desk receiving my admiration. One day last month in a hectic frenzy they fell to the ground. The five-inch square broke into three pieces.

I can fix this. I moved the ceramic to another table for repair… when I had more time.

Today, after confirming plans to connect with my potter friend, it was time. Gorilla glue, rubber bands, wet paper towel, dry rag and toothpicks—the damaged tray and I consummated the repair. The work was not hard, but the result was not pretty. In a focused but “need to get done” state of mind, the repair broke apart—three pieces became five.

Though not headed in the direction I intended, the phrase, it’s not perfect, but it will be better came to mind. I glued unskillfully. I did not pay close attention to how the ceramic pieces fit together, and the last two broken parts did not fit in the tray. No problem. Let me glue this together with my creative juices, and with my new teaching: it is not perfect, but it will be better. And it is. The tray is glued back together. Not perfect, but better. (See below for a capture of my creative expression.)

All too often, our efforts seek perfection. Our brilliant minds create ideas about what we want, and that want gets amplified with a concept of perfection— often unrealistic perfection. Perfection misses delicious sideroads, off-the-trail surprises, and spontaneous potentials. Perfection grasps. Perfection clings. Perfection excludes. Perfection exhausts.

Sometimes, all the situation requires is better. Better offers us a way in, a deeper breath, a warm space. Better is better. Better allows us elbow room and with that openness comes perspective. The work of money is a perfect place, pun intended, to explore the idea of not perfect, but better.

Let’s move in with a metaphor. What happens if we view the mountain top as perfection? What happens to the ascent and descent of the climbing experience? How long can we stay at the top of the mountain and survive boredom, hunger, weather? Often in our money journey we seek a top (usually retirement) attached to a number. We might miss the ascent—spending on current life experiences, saving for the future, and giving generously. In the process of accumulating and navigating money flow and growth, we might miss our “better.”

You may recall the well-known phrase and teaching called, the myth of arrival. This idea of perfection will be experienced when this _________ (fill in the blank) manifests. At the top may occur the myth of arrival experience, and the glow of achievement begins to fade. This is perfect! I can see for miles and miles, from here to eternity—the horizon beckons me! And then, just like that, we begin a descent. We fail to recognize that on the descent – spending, saving and giving are the same activities held with fresh eyes. Is climbing down a mountain a problem?

With better, when we know that we cannot make a mistake, we gain access to better decisions. Most harmful decisions come from the belief that there is only one right answer. Right answers close down curious possibilities. When we finally make a decision with a “right answer,” the ability to change is near impossible because we were seeking the perfection of that one right answer.

Now, as this missive comes to a close, consider better in an open curious way. Consider how better might be best. Consider what possibilities might emerge in decisions when we soften the grip of “right” in service of … restorative, rejuvenating, replenishing, revitalizing, revolutionary, reverent.

My repaired ceramic mishap does not appear perfect, but it is definitely better than broken or discarded. And I love it!

                     

Bettering life,

 

 

 

 

Five-Minute Try-It: Connecting with the Earth – Lying Down

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PURPOSE: Build a deeper relationship with the earth.

PREPARATION: Lie down on the ground on your back, with knees bent and feet flat. Get comfortable in the lying-down posture. Commit to relaxing and releasing, fully and completely.

Minute one: Feel the comfort of being held by the earth, allow tension to arise and release.

Minute two: Return to our mantra – releasing, receiving, connecting, co-creating – speaking the words in your mind. Emphasize releasing and receiving as your body relaxes even deeper.

Minute three: Allow the flow of releasing and receiving to open your body further to earth connection and co-creation.

Minute four: Add connecting and co-creating to your mind’s expression. Releasing, receiving, connecting, co-creating. Pause after each expression to fully digest the body experience.

Minute five: Let go of the mantra expression and simply feel the relaxed, open and full relationship with the earth.

Complete your practice slowly sitting up, staying present in the sitting posture, feeling and expressing gratitude for the connection, and slowly standing up. Notice the difference in connection in standing, seated and lying-down posture.

5-Minute Try It: Straws and Other Plastic

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PURPOSE: To gain awareness of our planet, and in particular marine life that struggles with human plastic use.

PREPARATION: Ask yourself, am I open to learning and seeing a new perspective? If so, watch my rant with an open heart and mind. Then, begin your own practice following these steps.

Minute one: Arrange your posture as described in Belly-Heart-Spine 5 Minute Try-It (click here for audio file.)

Minute two: Centering your body, reflect on this wonder question: hmmm, I wonder how my use of plastic serves me? Hmm, I wonder how my use of plastic serves others?

Minute three: Allow answers to arise. Return to centering, reflect on this wonder question: hmmm, I wonder how my use of plastic harms me? Hmm, I wonder how my use of plastic harms others?

Minute four: Allow answers to arise. What sensations (movement, pressure, temperature) arise in your body offering new information about the use of plastic? Allow new insights to arise.

Minute five: Reflect on this wonder question: hmmm, I wonder what new behavior around plastic would better serve others, the world and me.

Complete your practice by integrating your new insights and committing to a new relationship with plastic.

5-Minute Try It: Presence


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PURPOSE: Continuing the flow of Presence Connect Play from Kathlyn Hendricks, we dive deeper into Presence.  Presence is where we live life when we are fully engaged. Full engagement allows optimal joy, love and meaning to flourish.

PREPARATION:  Remember the purpose of Presence Connect Play offered from last month. Bring your “hands practice” to this month’s offering.  Recognize that there is no “end point” to presencing; presence is an always and forever practice. Presence allows us to authentically connect.

Minute one: Locate your body and begin with a body scan from the top of your head to the bottom of your feet. Imagine a light breeze moving through your body – gently and completely. Once your scan reaches your soles, ground deeply in the earth visualizing roots shooting to the center of the earth.

Minute two: Bring the scan back up your body with the same gentle breeze to the top of your head. Intensify the felt sense of your body-skin and the interior of your body. Become familiar with your body envelope.

Minute three: Using your body-skin as the boundary, notice all sensations, in particular, pressure, temperature and movement. What lights up in your body?

Minute four: Give attention to the sensations you notice, be present with what is happening. This practice strengthens body awareness and the capacity to Presence, to “know” what sensations are communicating to us.

Minute five: Float this question: What is my body offering me right now through sensations as I presence what is?

Complete your practice by honoring presence as an essential practice to be here, embodied, with what is – as presence.

5-Minute Try It: Clean Up and Fill Up

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PURPOSE: Sometimes we benefit from a simple clean up and fill up. Clean up is a way of letting go – of whatever is ready to leave your experience (e.g. literal dirt, or a feeling, thought, or belief). Fill up is a way of receiving whatever nourishes you now and going forward (body oil, vibrant energy, warmth, positivity, love).

PREPARATION: This practice can be experienced anywhere, as long as you have imagination. For ease, try the shower for the benefit of direct water flow supporting the practice. So to prepare, get naked!

Minute one: Allow water to wash over your head and feel the sensation of water running all over your body. Appreciate the flow of water.

Minute two: Imagine an opening at the top of your head with a channel moving down all the way through your body into the floor. Allow water to cleanse you from the top of your head to the toes on your feet. Feel the flow of clearing and cleansing.

Minute three: When complete, rotate your head clockwise and counterclockwise to signal the cleaning is finished. Prepare for filling up.

Minute four:  Again, imagine that the water flow is directed to the opening and channel in your body. Feel and experience light, joy… patience… (whatever you want to receive) filling up your body beginning at your feet and completing at the top of your head.

Minute five: When you feel sufficient, again rotate your head clockwise and counterclockwise to signal the filling up is complete.

Complete your practice by luxuriating in your nourishment of cleaning up and filling up. Allow this practice to support you and recognize the support from water, a precious element from nature.

5-Minute Try It: Flourishing Feminine

PURPOSE: To release pent up energy-known or unknown-and allow the body to “recalibrate” with more space and flow to serve what matters to you. If you feel stuck and unable to speak your truth, this is a helpful unsticking practice.

PREPARATION: Don’t prepare, unless preparing serves you. Be open to letting it out. State “I am willing to let it out” Then, allow life to happen and when the urge to let it out arises,..let it out.

Minute one: Get willing to express yourself and move energy through your vocal cords. Get willing to look silly!

Minute two: Commit to gentle, easy and friendly expression. Make a few audible sound through your throat and mouth.

Minute three: Inhale through your nose and fill your belly and lungs. Release your energy through your throat, making pleasurable sound.

Minute four: Repeat minute three.

Minute five:Continue to express satisfying sound through your mouth as long as it feels useful and/or you are unstuck.

Complete your practice by noticing the sensations and space in your chest, throat and nexk. Make a declarative statement about your ability to express. For example, “I speak my truth.” “I release my limitations.” “I am liberated.”

5-Minute Try It: Abide in Flow

PURPOSE: Experience ease in moment, like the element of water!

PREPARATION: Access the sound of water flowing, in nature or at your faucet, or the Be Moved video.

Minute one: Allow the sound of water flowing to fill your senses. Rest your mind and body in the sound of flowing water.

Minute two: “Get closer” to the water. Visualize yourself in the water, as water. How does water feel flowing in your body? Notice where your body feels ease in movement. Notice where you feel tight.

Minute three: Focus on the tight places in your body. Bring the image, sound and feel of water moving to the tightness.

Minute four: Deepen the feeling of flow, ease and movement connecting all places and spaces in your body with water flow.

Minute five: Feel the spaciousness opening in your body, allow this feeling to expand.

Complete your practice by committing to ease and flow. When you hear the sound of water, stop, bring your attention to your body, visualize water flowing to the tight places. Experience ease. Experience expansion.